Independent Women's Forum RSS feedhttp://www.iwf.orgThe RSS feed for the IWF. News, Commentary and Blog posts from the Independent Women's Foundation.(...)IWF RSShttp://iwf.org/images/email-logo.pnghttp://www.iwf.org33968Lena Dunham gives dog back to shelter due to "behavioral problems" • Cam & Co http://iwf.org/media/2804342/Julie GunlockTue, 18 Jul 2017 11:07:00 CSTen-usIndependent Women's ForumLassie Came Home. Lena Dunham’s Rescue Dog? ‘Re-Homed’ When He Became Inconvenient<p> Hollywood stars like their accessories&mdash;expensive jewelry, the latest high-end purse, arch-breaking shoes and overpriced clothing, rare pieces of art, sleek cars&hellip;and lately, pets.</p> <p> Of course, entertainers are a capricious lot, so they soon tire of these little playthings and shift their short attention spans to the next new, shinier, and pricier object. This sort of impulsiveness is perfectly fine when it applies to the latest Burberry clutch or Berluti Derbies, but when it happens with pets, well, that&rsquo;s a different story.</p> <p> Consider <em>Girls</em> creator and actress Lena Dunham and her rescue dog Lamby Antonoff-Dunham (named also for Dunham&rsquo;s musician boyfriend Jack Antonoff). The hyphenated surname makes clear that with Lamby&rsquo;s arrival, Jack and Lena were playing house and little Lamby was their child. The couple (or their public relations people) even promoted Lamby online, providing him his very own Instagram account (with 17.3 thousand followers) and a Twitter account (with, somewhat reassuringly, only 950 followers). Dunham&rsquo;s boyfriend Jack Antonoff even seemed a little jealous of Lamby&rsquo;s celebrity status, <a href="http://www.vogue.com/article/lena-dunham-the-new-queen-of-comedys-first-vogue-cover">telling</a> <em>Vogue</em> in 2014:</p> <p style="margin-left: 40px;"> I knew things were getting weird on&nbsp;<a href="http://instagram.com/duckyantonoff">Instagram</a>&nbsp;when somebody recognized Lamby on the street. I was like, &ldquo;Oh. This is a famous dog.&rdquo; People can handle this kind of thing, but a dog shouldn&rsquo;t have to go through it.</p> <p> In Antonoff&rsquo;s defense, it can&rsquo;t be easy living in the shadow of a shameless self-promoter and professional nudist like Dunham while also having to contend with the growing fame of the family dog/child. Yet, Lamby&rsquo;s hyphenated last name and his social media presence, combined with Antonoff&rsquo;s suggestion in the <em>Vogue </em>interview that Lamby had to suffer eager fans approaching the dog on the street (and let&rsquo;s be real, Lamby&rsquo;s hardly being swarmed by paparazzi Kardashian-style, no matter how much Antonoff might desire it), is the type of bizarre anthropomorphizing behavior common with Hollywood stars and their pets. To Dunham and Antonoff, Lamby was their child.</p> <p> But then, just a few months ago, Antonoff and Durham did the unthinkable, at least when it comes to parenting children: They gave Lamby away because of &ldquo;behavioral problems.&rdquo; According to a report in<em> <a href="https://www.thecut.com/2017/06/the-zen-dog-lena-dunham-and-carrie-brownsteins-dog-trainer.html">The Cut</a></em>:</p> <p style="margin-left: 40px;"> Last week, Lena Dunham&nbsp;<a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/BVlp8TEFRge/?hl=en">revealed the answer</a>&nbsp;to a social-media mystery. What ever happened to Lamby, the rescue dog who was the subject of her Instagrams and a&nbsp;<a href="http://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2013/03/25/a-box-ohttp://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2013/03/25/a-box-of-puppiesf-puppies"><em>New Yorker&nbsp;</em>essay</a>&nbsp;before he disappeared a few months back? It turns out Lamby had quietly and discreetly checked into a canine rehabilitation center, the Zen Dog, before eventually being re-homed. &ldquo;There were so many lessons in it, about forgiving myself and loving with an open palm and giving in to a larger plan,&rdquo; she wrote, without apparent irony.</p> <p> Interestingly, it was Lamby&rsquo;s social media profile that made people notice his disappearance. Forced to address it after her fans persisted in asking about Lamby, Dunham implied to <em>People </em>magazine that Lamby had been biting people. Sounding desperate about the situation, she said she was heartbroken that Lamby had to be &ldquo;re-homed&rdquo; (a euphemism that, like &ldquo;pre-owned,&rdquo; instead of &ldquo;used,&rdquo; sounds better than &ldquo;gotten rid of&rdquo;) adding, &ldquo;When you love something you have to let it go,&rdquo; and noting that she and Antonoff &ldquo;needed to be responsible to ourselves, our neighbors and especially our beloved boy.&rdquo; That beloved boy, she said, would be missed forever. Then, in what can only be described as a peak millennial moment, Dunham promised to someday &ldquo;really write about the pain and relief of letting Lamby go off and really be Lamby.&rdquo;</p> <p> Except, Lamby isn&rsquo;t really going to be allowed to be Lamby, right? Dunham didn&rsquo;t release Lamby into the wild or set him free into a mosh pit of dog bite fetishists willing to be attacked. No. Dunham gave him to a dog trainer, where his Lamby &ldquo;spirit&rdquo; will likely have to be broken until he is ready for re-adoption.</p> <p> Certainly, no one should have to keep an animal that bites, but Lamby&rsquo;s sad journey was likely the result of Dunham trying to look charitable and woke to the needs of animals without really wanting to put in the time it takes to care for a pet. The next time Dunham rescues a dog, she should consider adopting an older dog that, you know, won&rsquo;t be around long. It&rsquo;s an ideal solution for a busy actress who wants to appear socially conscious without the hassle of actually caring for something.</p> http://iwf.org/news/2804285/Julie GunlockTue, 11 Jul 2017 09:07:00 CSTen-usIndependent Women's ForumThe Holderness Family Embraces Helicopter Parenting this Summer (But I Still Love Them!)<p> I&rsquo;m a fan of the <a href="https://www.youtube.com/user/VisitTheGreenroom">Holderness family</a>&mdash;the YouTube sensation made up of petite and pretty, yet relatable, mom Kim; tall and adorably dorky dad Penn; and two delightful, patient, and very agreeable (to their parent&rsquo;s whims) pre-teen kids. They produce funny and very popular music videos that make light of life as a middle class family living in the suburbs. In our age of hyper-stressed parenting, it&rsquo;s nice to have the Holderness family around to remind parents not to take it all too seriously and that parenting can be fun.</p> <p> Mostly they get it right. Their recent comparison of what it&rsquo;s like to go to the beach with and without kids mimicked brilliantly British comedian Michael McIntyre&rsquo;s <a href="https://youtu.be/uFQfylQ2Jgg">hilarious routine</a> recreating what it&rsquo;s like to leave the house with and without children (spoiler: with kids, it involves more than just walking out the front door).</p> <p> Yet, the Holderness&rsquo; latest video, which focuses on the difficulty of getting through the summer months when the kids are out of school, hit an off note with me because it&rsquo;s premise is that it&rsquo;s the parents&rsquo; responsibility to entertain the kids during this break. It&rsquo;s not.</p> <p> The catchy hip hop song starts with Kim yelling to a group of neighbors: &ldquo;Okay, Parents, huddle up!&rdquo; followed by Penn rapping &ldquo;Okay, team, the school year is through! Three straight months and we&rsquo;ve got work to do.&rdquo; The message is clear: Parents are summertime&rsquo;s cruise directors and keeping the kids amused is going to be awful.</p> <p> The rest of the song focuses on the packed summer schedule, with Penn suggesting a play date and singing: &ldquo;Day One: we need an activity to do, how about we gather at a park around three!&rdquo; This is followed up with a call for Kim to clean her children (they&rsquo;ve become sweaty) who each seem old enough to clean themselves. Then comes a suggestion that they spend an hour doing a jigsaw puzzle, while Penn hovers over them.</p> <p> Day Two isn&rsquo;t any better. Penn and Kim wants to sleep in but, sadly, the entire family has to take the dog on a walk around what appears to be a very nice, suburban, and seemingly safe neighborhood. Someone needs to tell Penn and Kim that they can, in fact, sleep in if they let the kids walk the dog&mdash;by themselves.</p> <p> Day Three shows no signs of improvement. The Holderness kids are invited to a party. Yay! A break, right? Nah. The entire family attends the party. Days Four and Five are similarly grim, as the family can&rsquo;t seem to pry themselves away from each other.</p> <p> Of course, this is all supposed to be good, lighthearted fun and the Holderness family has indeed captured the dread many parents feel at the loss of&mdash;let&rsquo;s be honest&mdash;school-based babysitting. But the Holderness parents should be careful to protect their carefree, fun brand and not convey or support the type of helicopter parenting that&rsquo;s so prevalent today. They shouldn&rsquo;t fall into the trap of portraying parenting as a dreadful chore and kids as an unrelenting, living and breathing to-do list.</p> <p> Instead, Kim and Penn should do what they do best&mdash;remind us that parenting isn&rsquo;t the thankless job so many say it is and kids don&rsquo;t need to be &ldquo;entertained&rdquo; every second of the summer break. Perhaps a catchy song telling moms and dads that boredom is okay and completely normal. In fact, I&rsquo;m sure Penn and Kim could look back on their own childhoods&mdash;before smartphones, Wi-Fi, and the hundreds of television channels and on-demand shows now available&mdash;and remember that boredom was a huge part of their own summer breaks.</p> <p> My own mother in no way saw herself as Julie the Cruise Director (that&rsquo;s a <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0075529/">Love Boat</a> reference for you millennial readers). In fact, my mom was more like Claire the Kid Neglector&mdash;a mom norm in those days, not a reason to call Child Protective Services.</p> <p> I remain a huge fan of the Holderness family and always click on their videos to lift my sprits. Let&rsquo;s hope they keep up the good work and resist the urge to over-parent and overprotect.</p> http://iwf.org/news/2804229/Julie GunlockFri, 30 Jun 2017 10:06:00 CSTen-usIndependent Women's ForumWhy It’s Hilariously Hypocritical For Food And Wine To Lecture About The BLT’s Carbon Footprint<p> I love nothing more than to read a cooking magazine cover to cover, and dream of all the dinner parties I never seem to have enough time to host. Cooking magazines have become a respite in today&rsquo;s hyper-political world where people can become upset with the most innocuous of comments or gestures.</p> <p> Yet a recent article in <em>Food and Wine</em> shows that even cooking magazines are buckling under the pressure to become more &ldquo;woke&rdquo; to the problems of the world. Consider its recent publication of an article about the carbon footprint of the lowly bacon, lettuce, and tomato sandwich.</p> <p> The online article links to a YouTube video where NPR science reporter Adam Cole explains the carbon emissions involved in producing a BLT sandwich&mdash;from growing the grain, to making the bread, to the transportation costs associated with getting the items to the store, and eventually to your kitchen and belly.</p> <p> It&rsquo;s a lighthearted video, but the message is clear: our most basic habits&mdash;even making a sandwich&mdash;are dooming mother earth.</p> <p> <strong>Magazines&rsquo; Carbon Footprint Dwarfs That of Sandwiches</strong></p> <p> That&rsquo;s somewhat rich coming from a magazine, a publication that no doubt produces its own rather large carbon footprint, made even more awkward by the fact that this product is made of dead trees. Perhaps <em>Food and Wine</em> can ask Adam Cole to do a video on the carbon footprint of producing a monthly magazine.</p> <p> Cole could explain that one felled tree produces X number of magazines and how one tree leaves homeless X number of squirrels and owls and one sweet family of mice that lived in its root system. Cole could then show video of the now deceased tree being loaded into a diesel-spewing truck. Next he could show the tree corpse being transported to a factory (eww, a factory!) where it is pulverized and turned into paper, and then show how those reams of paper are loaded on yet another diesel-guzzling truck to be brought to another yucky factory where a magazine&mdash;filled with far more complex recipes than a BLT&mdash;are produced for people with loads of money to waste at Whole Foods. These magazines are then sent via the Postal Service to homes throughout the world, which of course involves more trucks, more gas, more carbon.</p> <p> Cole might also explain&mdash;like he did with the sandwich of death video&mdash;that <em>Food and Wine</em> is online, where they have a website and several social media pages on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram. So, just like the BLT, which Adam Cole explains require electricity to be made, <em>Food and Wine&rsquo;s</em> online presence similarly requires electricity, which of course, means more carbon. More death.</p> <p> <strong>Sorry, Guys&mdash;Food Is Necessary For Existence</strong></p> <p> But would the take away be of such a video on the evils of magazine production?&nbsp; &nbsp;What lesson is a <em>Food and Wine</em> reader supposed to derive from this article on the evils of the BLT production?</p> <p> The writer concludes by reminding readers that &ldquo;&hellip; a single sandwich creates an estimated 800 grams of carbon dioxide: enough gas to fill 100 gallon jugs. It turns out this simple sandwich isn&rsquo;t so simple.&rdquo;</p> <p> He&rsquo;s right. Sandwiches aren&rsquo;t simple. But here&rsquo;s something that is simple: people need to eat. Producing food requires energy, which will lead to the release of carbon.&nbsp; There&rsquo;s really no way around it.&nbsp; Of course, what humans don&rsquo;t require to breath is a magazine&mdash;something that seems to be lost on this article&rsquo;s authors and the magazine&rsquo;s editors.</p> <p> I don&rsquo;t read <em>Food and Wine</em> for articles on economics, or essays on the benefits of interstate commerce. I&rsquo;m not skimming <em>Food and Wine</em> to find a historical perspective on how the industrial age lifted the human condition by bringing consumers things like sliced bread (and sliced bacon and lettuce and tomatoes, even when those vegetables are out of season). But I do expect those in charge of <em>Food and Wine</em> to understand why it&rsquo;s perhaps bad business to publish articles that damn the magazine&rsquo;s own existence.</p> <p> After all, if you really cared about the earth and about reducing your own carbon footprint, you might consider never purchasing paper magazines anymore. One suspects the carbon footprint of producing a 100-page magazine far exceeds that of a lowly sandwich.</p> <p> I certainly hope this was a random occurrence on the part of my favorite magazine, and that <em>Food and Wine&rsquo;s</em> editors will remember that people read the magazine for the food and the wine&mdash;not to feel guilty for eating one of summer&rsquo;s best sandwiches. Of course, if one is moved to choose between two deadly habits&mdash;BLTs and magazine reading&mdash;it would be wise for those at <em>Food and Wine</em> to remember that most would choose the tastier of the two.</p> http://iwf.org/news/2804196/Julie GunlockWed, 28 Jun 2017 10:06:00 CSTen-usIndependent Women's ForumSay anything...just not to a mom • Cam & Cohttp://iwf.org/media/2804200/Julie GunlockTue, 27 Jun 2017 08:06:00 CSTen-usIndependent Women's ForumSay Anything. . . Just Not to a Mom?<p> Lately, I&rsquo;ve seen a lot of articles that tell people what not to say to mothers:</p> <p> <a href="https://www.babble.com/mom/things-never-to-say-to-a-mom-etiquette/">What not to say to a mom</a></p> <p> <a href="https://www.todaysparent.com/pregnancy/giving-birth/things-you-should-never-say-to-a-mom-who-had-a-c-section/">What not to say to a mom who had a C-section</a></p> <p> <a href="http://www.cbc.ca/parents/learning/view/4-things-you-should-never-say-to-a-mom-of-boys">What not to say to a mom of boys</a></p> <p> <a href="https://itsalovelylife.com/10-things-you-should-never-say-to-a-mom-of-all-girls-that-people-actually-have-said-to-me/">What not to say to a mom of girls</a></p> <p> <a href="http://truncationblog.com/what-not-to-say-to-a-twin-mom/">What not to say to moms of twins</a></p> <p> <a href="http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/parenting/a44365/melanie-shankle-one-child-essay/">What not to say to moms with one child</a></p> <p> <a href="http://www.chitchatmom.com/2017/06/5-things-to-never-say-to-large-family.html">What not to say to moms of a lot of kids</a></p> <p> <a href="https://www.care.com/c/stories/5085/9-things-never-to-say-to-a-stay-at-home-mom/">What not to say to a stay-at-home mom</a></p> <p> What not to say to&hellip;.</p> <p> &hellip;and on and on it goes.</p> <p> Sadly, I haven&rsquo;t come across an article entitled: &ldquo;You Can Say Anything To Me Because I&rsquo;m a Grown Up Who Can Deal.&rdquo; And really, considering what moms do deal with on a daily basis, we really should be able to handle quite a bit, right?</p> <p> For instance, most new moms (and dads) go without a proper night&rsquo;s sleep for weeks at a time. Moms dutifully wipe dirty butts, pick boogers out of noses, and clean vomit off of car seats, beds, floors, carpets, and often even ourselves. Moms keep their kids safe during night terrors and sometimes sleep in teeny toddler beds. They clean and tend to wounds, pick hair for lice, and conduct body checks for ticks. Moms sometimes have to deal with school bullies, tough teachers, and those other moms on the playground who play mean girl games.</p> <p> Breastfeeding moms have to endure the process of feeding or pumping milk in less than ideal situations. Bottle feeding moms have to make sure their gear is clean and ready at all times. Working moms juggle schedules and caregiver needs and guilt, while stay-at-home moms battle loneliness and money woes and anxiety and guilt. All moms deal with nagging, constant interruptions, and thankless task completion each and every day. It&rsquo;s true that mothering can be humiliating, exhausting, physically challenging, frustrating, and yet rewarding all at the same time.</p> <p> Considering these clear displays of endurance, tell me, why in the world would these strong women be bothered when someone gives them a condemnatory side glance while breastfeeding in public? Why would these tough moms put much stock in the Crossfit Dad who looks aghast as their children devour a Happy Meal and sugary juice box? Why would a reasonable mom spend any time worrying about the snide remark made by the sanctimonious neighbor after witnessing that mom hauling in tons of formula and the party-size bag of cheeseballs after a trip to the grocery store?</p> <p> Of course, no one is made of steel. It&rsquo;s natural to feel uncomfortable when you sense that you are being judged, but why are we encouraging moms to care about something that&rsquo;s out of their control?</p> <p> This week, ABC News <a href="http://abcnews.go.com/Lifestyle/dont-judge-woman-writes-solidarity-moms/story?id=48155643">reprinted a heartfelt Facebook post</a> by mom blogger Laura Mazza, imploring people to stop judging other moms. Mazza explained that we don&rsquo;t understand people&rsquo;s individual situations so we should hold off on judging that mom who is breastfeeding in public or that mom who is bottle-feeding, or the other mom that&rsquo;s scolding her kid loudly, or the one that won&rsquo;t get off her smartphone at the playground.</p> <p> It&rsquo;s a nice sentiment, but let&rsquo;s get real. No one&rsquo;s going to stop judging. Being judgmental is as natural as breathing. While Mazza&rsquo;s post is well-meaning, it might be better to advise women to try to ignore the judgment, side glances, snide comments and rudeness of others and just get on with their busy lives.</p> <p> Moms walk a tough road that requires a lot of physical and mental strength. It would be nice if the people around us always understood that and tried to make parenting easier. But it&rsquo;s inevitable that we are going to be met with some jerks along the way that add to our load. We don&rsquo;t need to wish them away; we have the choice to shrug them off and ignore those who don&rsquo;t approve.</p> <p> It wouldn&rsquo;t be the hardest thing you&rsquo;ve had to do today. Not even close.</p> http://iwf.org/news/2804180/Julie GunlockMon, 26 Jun 2017 12:06:00 CSTen-usIndependent Women's ForumVulnerable women shouldn't have to wait 45 days to conceal carry • Cam & Companyhttp://iwf.org/media/2804148/Julie GunlockTue, 20 Jun 2017 15:06:00 CSTen-usIndependent Women's ForumDr. Gwyneth and Her Goop Will See You Now<p> Retired actress and current lifestyle guru Gwyneth Paltrow is determined to expand her Goop empire. Paltrow isn&rsquo;t going to let her recent <a href="http://people.com/movies/gwyneth-paltrow-talks-goop-jimmy-kimmel-live/">admission</a> on Jimmy Kimmel Live! that she &ldquo;Doesn&rsquo;t know what the f**k we [at Goop] talk about&rdquo; deter her from teaming up with Vogue editor Anna Wintour and Cond&eacute; Naste to launch a Goop magazine&mdash;a paper version of the website that will ostensibly be filled with more content that Paltrow doesn&rsquo;t really understand.</p> <p> And last week, Paltrow hosted her first Goop Health Summit, called <a href="http://goop.com/ingoophealth/">In Goop Health</a>, where people paid between $500-$1,500 to learn how to turn away from science and evidenced-based medicine in favor of a variety of peculiar and downright harmful treatments all sanctioned by the actress.</p> <p> Since I don&rsquo;t have an extra $500 laying around, I wasn&rsquo;t able to attend Goop&rsquo;s health conference in Los Angeles, but I did read others&rsquo; accounts and was pleased to see that most of the coverage was in agreement: At best, Goop is just another time-consuming fad for rich, white, body-obsessed women. At worst, Goop and these new health summits are dangerous and attract the very demographic vulnerable to dodgy medical advice and the promise of miracle cures.</p> <p> One critic of Paltrow&rsquo;s summit was Dr. Jen Gunter, a Canadian OB/GYN and a board certified pain specialist who is a frequent critic of medical quackery and pseudoscience. Hearing that Dr. Amy Meyers&mdash;a summit speaker&mdash;suggested that magnesium can be used in place of antibiotics to treat non life-threatening infections, Dr. Gunter, on her own website, reminding Goop devotees that all infections can become life-threatening if they&rsquo;re not treated properly. Gunter wrote:</p> <p> This is the medical equivalent of saying it&rsquo;s okay to play in traffic just avoid the really big trucks. Or only wear your seat belt if you think you are going to be in a life-threatening crash. This is dangerous and unethical advice. I am&nbsp;not sure how else to sum it up.</p> <p> The Guardian&rsquo;s Lindy West&mdash;usually someone who can be counted on to bash these sorts of privileged gatherings&mdash;was more sanguine, <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/jun/14/gwyneth-glows-like-a-radioactive-swan-my-day-at-the-goop-festival">writing</a> that we should all lighten up:</p> <p> These women are having fun. They are sitting on pillows and connecting with each other. It is the kind of spontaneously intimate conversation that happens among women all the time, dressed up in the language of magic and, sure, monetised.</p> <p> And some were simply amused. Elle&rsquo;s Crystal Meers <a href="http://www.elle.com/beauty/news/a45954/goop-health-summit/">wrote</a>:</p> <p> High on matcha lattes and Bulletproof Coffee, women (and a handful of men) shopped the Clean Beauty Apothecary, hydrated with Moon Juice tonics, and joined The Class founder Taryn Toomey for a new style sweatless session. But bone broth aside, the main attraction of the day was the five panel discussions exploring the Goopiest of Goop topics from gut health to the mother wound.</p> <p> Whatever your feelings about Gwyneth, Goop, and the advice given out at the health summit, one thing&rsquo;s for sure: Despite her efforts to come off as a self-effacing everywoman interested in helping people &ldquo;become their best version,&rdquo; Paltrow&rsquo;s not at all like us. This was perhaps best demonstrated when Paltrow invited her good friends&mdash;actress and self-help book author Cameron Diaz, designer-of-very-expensive-clothing Tory Burch; I&rsquo;m-not-sure-what-she-does-or-why-she&rsquo;s-famous Nicole Richie, and super model and wife to a billionaire tech visionary Miranda Kerr&mdash;to chat about the complex job of being a working mother.</p> <p> Lindy West reported that each of them delivered &ldquo;a bounty of platitudes about ambition, female friendship, self-care&rdquo; but that not once did they acknowledge the elephant in the room: They are all filthy rich with staffs to help them deal with these &ldquo;complexities.&rdquo;</p> <p> Women seeking advice from the Goop panelists should also note that these women can also employ top doctors to treat them after they do something silly&mdash;like relying on crystals for hormonal balance, doing sixteenth-century leech treatments to improve skin, putting rocks in their vaginas, engaging in unnecessary draining of one&rsquo;s lymphatic system, steaming their vaginas (do you sense a theme?), sitting in pools of goat&rsquo;s milk to rid oneself of parasites, starting starvation diets, and deciding a picture of your aura is better than taking anti-depressants.</p> <p> For the average woman who lives on a budget, it&rsquo;s important to avoid things that actually make one sick and will cost precious dollars to fix. For that reason, it&rsquo;s probably best to avoid Goop&rsquo;s health advice, unless of course, you&rsquo;re in it for the laughs. There are plenty of those, along with the leeches.</p> http://iwf.org/news/2804131/Julie GunlockMon, 19 Jun 2017 12:06:00 CSTen-usIndependent Women's ForumJerry Seinfeld Isn’t Disgusted Enough With Kardashian-Style Reality Television<p> Jerry Seinfeld isn&rsquo;t a fan of reality television. In an interview with sartorial online magazine Mr. Porter, Seinfeld explained that he&rsquo;s not one to easily get upset with his kids. Yet there&rsquo;s one thing that grates on his nerves: When they watch &ldquo;Keeping Up With the Kardashians.&rdquo;</p> <p style="margin-left: 40px;"> <em>I never lose it around them. The one time I really, really got upset was when my daughter was watching the Kardashians on her phone in her bed and I could not take that scene. For someone who for their whole life, television was the Olympics of being a comedian. It was only for the very best. You had to have everything. You had to go through all the different hierarchies of your career to get to television. I&rsquo;m offended by reality television on many levels and that show of course is the premier example of reality television. These people are not doing anything interesting. I lost my temper with that one.</em></p> <p> Seinfeld&rsquo;s right of course, but it&rsquo;s clear his irritation with the Kardashian family has more to do with their seemingly effortless and meritless ascent to television stardom, a venue Seinfeld clearly reveres as only appropriate for those who have slaved away in the bowels of Hollywood or endured the standup comedy circuit like he did.</p> <p> While it does indeed seem unfair that this talent-free family has prospered on nothing more than self-promotion (to the tune of $100 million for four more seasons of vulgar showboating), the Kardashian clan&rsquo;s greatest offence is hardly taking advantage of a system that rewards those who have the least self-respect. In fact, they might even deserve praise for figuring out how to game the system.</p> <p> <strong>It&rsquo;s About Content, Not Just Style</strong></p> <p> The really disturbing thing about the Kardashians is the content of their show&mdash;the dysfunction, cruelty and disloyalty to each other, pettiness and backstabbing, staged relationships and even marriages, the drug abuse, depression, sexual exploits, boundary-less living and hard partying, financial recklessness, and utter moral emptiness. Or how about how the family&rsquo;s relentless pursuit of material wealth and fame has endangered Kim&rsquo;s physical health and Rob&rsquo;s mental health?</p> <p> These are the things that should bother Seinfeld far more than the family&rsquo;s bizarre meteoric rise and million-dollar payday.</p> <p> The Kardashians aren&rsquo;t the only ones producing unsavory content on television. Just last week, ABC suspended production of its reality show &ldquo;Bachelor In Paradise&rdquo; after allegations of sexual misconduct involving two inebriated contestants. The details are murky, but if we are talking about drunken hookups, one wonders: Isn&rsquo;t that the whole point of that show?</p> <p> <strong>The Kardashians Are Just One Example</strong></p> <p> Seinfeld also seems baffled that people actually want to watch ne&rsquo;er&ndash;do&ndash;wells doing nothing. But he forgets that voyeuristic window-peeping into the lives of rich people is a popular sport. What else accounts for the popularity of such vapid gossip sites as TMZ and Perez Hilton? Most of the people featured in those outlets are similarly &ldquo;not doing anything interesting,&rdquo; unless, of course, you consider paparazzi shots of Jennifer Aniston filling up her SUV&rsquo;s gas tank, Katy Perry lounging on a tropical beach, or a comparison of cellulite on the perfect-by-normal-standards bodies of young actresses to be interesting. Many do.</p> <p> There is some good news, though. It appears the popularity of reality television in general and the Kardashians&rsquo; show in particular are beginning to wane. Americans are experiencing a bout of reality television fatigue and have grown tired of the gimmicks to gain their attention&mdash;such as the weird cross-pollination of genres (&ldquo;Survivor&rdquo; with totally naked people? Let&rsquo;s give it a whirl! Blindfolded dating? Why not! B-grade celebrities and sharp knives? Heck yeah!).</p> <p> While Seinfeld may have missed the mark on why we should all change the channel when the Kardashians appear, he&rsquo;s still doing a public service by pointing out that there are far better things to watch on television&mdash;like old &ldquo;Seinfeld&rdquo; reruns.</p> http://iwf.org/news/2804124/Julie GunlockMon, 19 Jun 2017 08:06:00 CSTen-usIndependent Women's ForumFancy Food Marketing: Silly or Smart? • Cam & Companyhttp://iwf.org/media/2804109/Julie GunlockTue, 13 Jun 2017 10:06:00 CSTen-usIndependent Women's ForumWhy The Baby Industry Really Doesn’t Want Newborns To Sleep In Cardboard Boxes<p> To paraphrase Dr. Seuss: would you put your baby in a house, with a mouse, in a box, with a fox? A lot of people are saying yes &mdash; to the box, that is. According to the <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2017/05/24/well/family/put-your-baby-in-a-box-experts-advise-caution.html"><em>New York Times</em>, babies in boxes are all the rage in Finland</a>, and there&rsquo;s growing popularity here in the United States.</p> <p> It makes sense. These days, it&rsquo;s trendy to suggest Scandinavian countries are far superior to the United States in basically all areas of policy&mdash;from maternity and paternity leave to gay marriage, education to government corruption, and so on. So it&rsquo;s no surprise that maternity wards in America are now adopting the Finnish style in how and where we put our newborns to bed.</p> <p> According to the <em>Times</em>, part of the appeal is that Finland has a very low child mortality rate&mdash;a statistic some hospitals and public health groups say is due to the fact maternity wards in Finland give new parents a cardboard box filled with baby supplies that can double as a baby bed.</p> <p> <strong>States Are Having Baby Box Giveaways</strong></p> <p> Now hospitals in several American states&mdash;New Jersey, Ohio, Alabama, and Texas&mdash;are planning to start their own baby box giveaway programs that, in addition to baby supplies like diapers and formula, will come with advice on safe sleeping practices for infants.</p> <p> Of course, this isn&rsquo;t anything new. When I brought home my firstborn son a decade ago, my father marveled at the supplies I had purchased. In addition to the crib, our son had a lovely, ruffled, and tufted bassinet to sleep in as well. My father chuckled at seeing these two expensive items. &ldquo;Huh&hellip;two beds for this precious boy!&rdquo; he noted. You should have seen his reaction to the diaper wipe warmer!</p> <p> My father then adopted what&rsquo;s best described as a grumpy &ldquo;These spoiled kids these days!&rdquo; attitude and reminded me that when I was a newborn, I was placed in a dresser drawer on the floor, adding, &ldquo;it was good enough for you!&rdquo;</p> <p> <strong>Babies Are Now Big Business</strong></p> <p> He&rsquo;s right, of course. But times have changed, and babies are now big business. In fact, the baby products industry rakes in billions of dollars each year. <a href="https://www.racked.com/2015/12/2/9831080/baby-product-industry">A 2015 Vox article on the baby market boom</a>, asked an important, if not rather obvious, question: Are these companies serving parents, or just preying on them? Consider the money-making potential in this market before you answer. Vox reports:</p> <p> Some of the market&rsquo;s most dominant companies have hit record-breaking numbers over the last few years, further signaling that parents are indeed spending more money than ever before. In 2013, Graco, a popular supplier of strollers, car seats, and high chairs, pulled in $119 million in sales. But that&rsquo;s nothing compared to Pampers, Proctor &amp; Gamble&rsquo;s diaper brand which also happens to be its largest; it brought in $10.7 billion this past year. Bed Bath &amp; Beyond Inc. has seen its sales double since it acquired BuyBuy Baby in 2007. Babies &ldquo;R&rdquo; Us has expanded its footprint to 224 stores, and currently carries more than 20,000 products; it brought in $654 million as of August.</p> <p> Of course, there&rsquo;s nothing wrong with companies making money and understanding consumer demands and psychology. But it&rsquo;s also interesting to consider what a cardboard box would mean to this thriving and booming industry.</p> <p> <strong>The Government Wants To Regulate Your Baby Box</strong></p> <p> But the baby market need not worry. Their friends in the regulatory space are already sniffing around this (not so) new and affordable trend, and wringing their hands about the lack of regulation in the baby box industry. The <em>Times</em> article quotes one member of the Consumer Product Safety Commission&mdash;which is charged with pulling faulty, damaged, dangerous, or badly designed products from store shelves&mdash;wondering, &ldquo;What is the box made of? How durable is it? If you use it through three different children does it deteriorate?&rdquo; They add ominously, &ldquo;those are things they&rsquo;ll determine in the standards committee.&rdquo;</p> <p> Ah, yes, thank goodness for a government standards committee looking into these dangerous boxes and posing these tough questions.&nbsp; As usual, regulators think most parents are pretty stupid&mdash;unable to determine if a box has deteriorated to the point of being dangerous, or was somehow cheaply made and not durable enough to house a tiny infant for the night.</p> <p> If I were to do it all over again, I&rsquo;m not sure I&rsquo;d trade my crib and frilly bassinet for a lowly box. But we should all be able to agree that parents should have more choices and price points in baby products&mdash;and trust them to make the right decision for their families.</p> http://iwf.org/news/2804078/Julie GunlockMon, 12 Jun 2017 10:06:00 CSTen-usIndependent Women's ForumJerry Seinfeld Reminds the World that Hugging Shouldn’t be Compulsory<p> When did compulsory hugging become a thing?</p> <p> I bet Jerry Seinfeld is asking that question. This week, <a href="http://ew.com/news/2017/06/06/jerry-seinfeld-kesha-hug/?utm_campaign=entertainmentweekly&amp;utm_source=twitter.com&amp;utm_medium=social&amp;xid=entertainment-weekly_socialflow_twitter">video surfaced of him refusing to hug pop singer Kesha</a>, who approached him at an event at the Kennedy Center in Washington, D.C.</p> <p> While Seinfeld was being interviewed on the red carpet, Kesha rushed over, interrupted the interview, and asked the comedian, &ldquo;Can I give you a hug?&rdquo;</p> <p> Not waiting for an answer (because in her mind, this was a rhetorical question&hellip;who would refuse a hug from a fellow rich celebrity, right?), Kesha moved toward Seinfeld, ready for her embrace.</p> <p> Seinfeld, startled, lifted his hands in a defensive mode; he stepped back from her, and then stuttered a little before saying, &ldquo;No thanks.&rdquo;</p> <p> Undeterred (and probably believing it was all part of Seinfeld&rsquo;s shtick), Kesha laughed then pleaded with the comedian, saying, &ldquo;Please?&rdquo; A little one?&rdquo; then again stepped forward with her arms outstretched. She was getting this hug!</p> <p> Again, Seinfeld backed away and said, this time with a tinge of annoyance in his voice, &ldquo;No thanks.&rdquo; He turned to the radio host who was interviewing him and said, &ldquo;I don&rsquo;t know who that was.&rdquo; Kesha fled with a screech, finally defeated.</p> <p> Poor Kesha.</p> <p> Seinfeld first approached the topic of odd social closeness and familiarity in season five of his popular sitcom Seinfeld in an episode called &ldquo;<a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Raincoats_(Seinfeld)">The Raincoats</a>.&rdquo; The episode featured Elaine&rsquo;s &ldquo;close talker&rdquo; boyfriend Aaron (played by Judge Reinhold), meeting Jerry&rsquo;s parents, who are visiting. Hilarity ensues when Aaron moves awkwardly close to Jerry&rsquo;s mom, then to his dad, then to Jerry himself. His body language is slightly aggressive, like that of a drunk and belligerent frat boy starting a fight with a pledge. Yet Aaron isn&rsquo;t drunk or rude; he&rsquo;s completely affable and very generous (offering to take Jerry&rsquo;s parents to the Met when Jerry admits he&rsquo;s doing nothing to entertain them).</p> <p> That episode premiered in 1994, but Jerry, as usual, had tapped into a lasting cultural trend&mdash;our tendency to ignore personal space.</p> <p> A decade later, the <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2009/05/28/style/28hugs.html">New York Times covered this issue</a> in a piece about promiscuous levels of hugging at a high school in Montvale, N.J., where students identified hugs by type:</p> <p> There is the basic friend hug, probably the most popular, and the bear hug, of course. But now there is also the bear claw, when a boy embraces a girl awkwardly with his elbows poking out.</p> <p> There is the hug that starts with a high-five, then moves into a fist bump, followed by a slap on the back and an embrace.</p> <p> There&rsquo;s the shake and lean; the hug from behind; and, the newest addition, the triple&mdash;any combination of three girls and boys hugging at once.</p> <p> Hugging even has a national holiday <a href="http://nationalhuggingday.com/store">with a website that offers swag</a>&mdash;like a hoodie with the words &ldquo;hug it out&rdquo; emblazoned on it. Cute. Hug Day was created thirty years ago to encourage people to openly express themselves through hugging. The organizers also say hugging reduces stress and blood pressure, except for, you know, the people who get stressed and whose blood pressure spikes at the very idea of being hugged by strangers. Today, one is expected to simply relax and take the hug that&rsquo;s offered and even to return that hug enthusiastically. If one seems hesitant to hug, one comes off as cold and boorish.</p> <p> Perhaps we&rsquo;ve reached a tipping point on hugging, however. Last year, the Times Square &ldquo;hug guy&rdquo; <a href="http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/nyc-crime/times-square-free-hug-thug-bugs-slugs-tourist-article-1.2635192">punched a woman</a> who refused to pay him for his &ldquo;free hug.&rdquo; Clearly, hug guy has moved into the Seinfeld camp.</p> <p> I&rsquo;m not suggesting we return to the formal days of Victorian England, when touching was verboten, but perhaps we can take the physical contact down a notch or two. It might be nice to replace hugging with a smile and a handshake or even a friendly greeting with our arms planted firmly at our sides. So thank you, Seinfeld, for reminding us that although hugs are great, like good comedy, they should never be forced.</p> http://iwf.org/news/2804063/Julie GunlockThu, 8 Jun 2017 12:06:00 CSTen-usIndependent Women's Forum"Too Safe" playground rules are causing more kids to act out • Cam & Cohttp://iwf.org/media/2804054/Julie GunlockTue, 6 Jun 2017 09:06:00 CSTen-usIndependent Women's ForumPodcast #83 How vaping regulations harm those trying to quit smoking<p> Julie Gunlock sits down with Paul Blair of Americans for Tax Reform to discuss how proposed vaping regulations would harm Americans trying to quit the smoking habit.</p> http://iwf.org/media/2803815/Julie GunlockFri, 2 Jun 2017 09:06:00 CSTen-usIndependent Women's ForumSC Johnson, Transparency, and the Free Market<p> SC Johnson&rsquo;s iconic advertisement campaign, which states it&rsquo;s &ldquo;a family company&rdquo; resonates with people. Family companies are associated with small town values, integrity, honesty and products that are durable, reliable, affordable and safe. People want to buy products from companies they trust.</p> <p> Last week, SC Johnson announced it wants to do more to gain consumer&rsquo;s trust. Responding to demands for more transparency, the company launched a <a href="http://whatsinsidescjohnson.com/us/en">new website</a> that lists the chemicals used in their products. Ostensibly, this allows people who might have an allergy to certain chemicals to check which products contain those chemicals so that they can avoid them.</p> <p> SC Johnson is receiving vast praise for the move. Even Ken Cook, President of well-known alarmist organization The Environmental Working Group, praised the move. Cook told PR Newswire: &ldquo;SC Johnson is once again raising the bar for other companies,&rdquo; adding (emphasis mine):</p> <blockquote> <p> This is a groundbreaking disclosure of allergens in cleaning products from SC Johnson,&rdquo; Cook said. &ldquo;By taking these steps, SC Johnson will help millions of consumers be smarter about chemicals in cleaning products <strong><em>that have the potential to causes allergic skin responses</em></strong>.</p> </blockquote> <p> While I&rsquo;m happy to see Cook praise SC Johnson, it&rsquo;s important to remember that while there are chemicals out there that can cause allergic reactions, the mere presence of a these chemicals does not automatically mean a person <em>will</em> develop an allergic reaction&mdash;even for those with diagnosed allergies to a particular chemical. SC Johnson and many other companies that produce cleaning and personal care products use chemicals in very small amounts&mdash;far below what causes allergic sensitivity to develop.</p> <p> Of course, what&rsquo;s lost in all of this is the discussion of why manufacturers use these chemicals in the first place. Consumers should know that chemicals often make products better, longer lasting, more durable, free of bacteria, and more affordable. It&rsquo;s easy to get caught up in the alarmism surrounding chemicals and to be afraid of the multisyllabic words that might appear on ingredient labels. But it&rsquo;s important that people realize that these products undergo hundreds of safety tests before being placed on store shelves.</p> <p> When I see efforts to provide more information to consumers, I&rsquo;m reminded of the benefit of the free market system. Government didn&rsquo;t make SC Johnson do this&mdash;consumer demand drove this industry initiative. That&rsquo;s good for shoppers.</p> http://iwf.org/blog/2803801/Julie GunlockWed, 31 May 2017 11:05:00 CSTen-usIndependent Women's Forum